Safe Dating Practices
The League is committed to keeping our community a place of safety, equality, and love. Please report issues relating to safety or inappropriate conduct in the app or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here are some ways to stay safe when using the app or meeting IRL:
Use the app to communicate Keep your conversations on the app while you’re getting to know someone. Users with bad intentions often try to quickly move the conversation off-app to text, messaging apps like What’s App, email, or phone. Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but are “stuck” somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to return home. Before meeting in person, consider using The League’s video chat feature from the Messages tab to verify your prospective date does in fact match their profile picture and to get a better feel for their personality. Be wary of anyone who will not talk on a phone/video call or meet in person—they may not be who they say they are. If someone is avoiding your questions or pushing for a serious relationship without meeting or getting to know you first — that’s usually a red flag.
Don’t Share Your Personal InformationNever share personal information, such as your social security number, bank account or credit card numbers, home/work address, or details about your daily routine with people you don’t know. If you are a parent, limit the information that you share about your children on your profile and in early communications.
Your Money/Financial InformationNever send money, especially over wire transfer, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash — it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace where the money went. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts. Forex/Cryptocurrency scams are on the rise, and a scammer will ask you to invest. If another user asks you for money, report it to us immediately.For tips on avoiding romance scams, check out some advice from the U.S Federal Trade Commission on the FTC website.
Meeting in Person
- THE LEAGUE DOES NOT CONDUCT CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECKS ON ITS MEMBERS, so prior to meeting someone in person we encourage you to verify the person as much as possible. While the more verification badges a user has, the more confident you can feel in the authenticity of their profile, we cannot guarantee the authenticity of profiles.
- Use our video call feature to “meet” your date virtually before you meet them in person.
- Do some background research. Checking google search and social media to make sure a match is who they say they are is something many people do, and a great way to look for any red flags.
- Conduct reference checks by asking others who are connected with the person about them and their behavior. You can also conduct your own third-party background check prior to meeting offline using a third party service like Checkr.
- The first time you meet, make sure it’s in a public place.
- Tell somebody close to you your date’s name, what you’re wearing, where you’re going, and when—and that you’ll contact them once you’re safely home afterward.
- Be in control of your transportation and have a backup plan such as a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.
- It’s okay to politely leave the date early if you’re feeling uncomfortable. In fact, it’s encouraged. If your instincts are telling you something is off, or you feel unsafe, leave immediately. If need be, ask for help from the restaurant staff or those working within the vicinity of your date place.
If someone crosses the line of respect and/or safety standards, we want to know about it.
- Flag their profile by clicking on the Triangle/Exclamation Point in the lower-left corner of their profile, and let us know why you are flagging them in the “Tell Us More” box.
- Send a message to us via email either through the app by clicking on “Report A Safety Issue” in the settings tab or emailing email@example.com
Here are some reasons to report a user/abuser:
- Request for money
- Underage users
- Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
- Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after meeting in person
- Fraudulent profiles
- Spam or solicitation including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services, Forex/Cryptocurrency scams, etc.