If you’ve ever stared at a match’s profile wondering what do I even say, you’re not alone.
The good news? We looked at what League daters across the country are actually interested in and there’s a clear pattern. Even better: these aren’t just profile fillers. They’re your best conversation starters.
Here’s what people on The League are into right now and how to use that to your advantage.
1. Travel Is the Ultimate Icebreaker
If there’s one thing almost everyone on The League agrees on, it’s travel. It’s the #1 interest across every major city, with over 55% of women and 41% of men listing travel as a top interest.
Skip “hey” and go for “What’s a trip you’re still thinking about?” or “Window or aisle—and where are we going?”
Travel works because it’s aspirational, personal, and easy to build on. It’s basically flirting disguised as logistics.
2. Live Music Leads to Instant Chemistry
Live music consistently ranks as a top interest across both genders and major cities. In cities like Atlanta and Dallas, it’s even more dominant—especially among women.
This makes it easy to ask someone, “What was the last concert you went to and was it worth it?” or “Be honest: are you a festival person or a small venue snob?”
Bonus: this one converts easily into a fun first date.
3. Outdoorsy Is In (Even If It’s ‘Soft Hiking’)
Hiking shows up as a top interest for both men and women across the board, with especially strong engagement in places like San Francisco.
Ask someone, “Are we talking real hiking or a scenic walk with snacks?” or “What’s your go-to ‘escape the city’ spot?” This is a great way to feel out someone’s vibe (and effort level).
4. The Quiet Flex: Reading
Reading is one of the biggest differentiators on The League about 30% of women list it as a top interest versus roughly 16% of men. Translation: it stands out.
Ask “What’s a book you actually finished recently?” or “Are you more fiction escape or nonfiction self-improvement?” It signals depth—and gives you an easy way to move beyond small talk.
5. Funny Still Wins
Comedy consistently lands in the top tier of interests for both men and women.
Find out more by asking “What’s your humor style: dry, chaotic, or TikTok brain?” or “Who’s a comedian you’d actually pay to see live?”
If you can make someone laugh early, you’re already ahead.
6. Wellness Is More Than a Trend
From yoga to meditation to Pilates, wellness is a major theme, especially among women.
Try opening with something like “Morning workout person or absolutely not?” or “What’s your current ‘I’m trying to be healthy’ phase?”
It’s relatable, low-pressure, and opens the door to lifestyle compatibility.
7. For the Guys: Sports Matter
Sporting events show up strongly for men (especially in cities like Philly and Dallas) but don’t rank as highly for women. If they’re into it, ask “Which team are we emotionally investing in?” And if they’re not, you can playfully say “Convince me I should care about your team.”
The Takeaway
The best conversations on The League don’t come from trying to be clever, they come from being relevant. Travel, music, outdoors, books, comedy—these aren’t just interests. They’re shared ground. So next time you match, don’t overthink it. Start where the data is, and take the shot.
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